6 Habits That Will Make You Likable

Mnemonics: It's the art of remembering something instantly.

C.A.N.T - B. E

C -> Compliments -> Give out genuine Compliments

A -> Attitude -> Have a positive Attitude

N -> Name -> Call by their Name

T -> Time -> Spend some Time with them

B -> Blunder -> Talk about your Blunders

E -> Express -> Let others fully Express themselves

Let's start.

We all have individual qualities and gifts that make us unique. You may just need to develop some more likable habits that will get others to notice you enough to wanna find out more about you. So here are some activities that can make someone like you.

1) Give out genuine compliments.

Everyone loves compliments, and you can probably tell when someone is being genuine about them too. If you meet someone and find something you appreciate about them, tell them about it the next time you see them. Did you know that the same characteristics that you assign to others are also linked to you? This is known as spontaneous trait transference, and it happens when speakers are seen to have the qualities they describe in others. According to several studies published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology researchers found that when you describe someone with a certain trait to another person, that person will associate you with the described trait. So, you are what you say.

2) Have a positive attitude

Do you know that one nice person who always has the kindest, most positive things to say? Don't you get a sense of joy and peace when you're around them? They don't complain much, and when they do, it's generally justified. They appear to emit bright, positive energy that attracts others. Research papers from the University of Hawaii and Ohio State University suggest that most people can unconsciously tell what mood you're in when they happen to be around you. Others in your group are likely to copy your pleasant facial expressions and movements if you show them good feelings. Therefore, they are likely to feel positive emotions when they're around you and want to see you more often. When you're a happy person, others will enjoy your company and, eventually, appreciate you as a whole.

3) Call by their name

You know how you get excited when you hear your own name? Imagine you're at a party and someone speaks your name from across the room. Instead of calling you over with a "hey you," they call you by your name. You immediately take notice and head over to them. We are so acquainted with the sound of our names that we can identify them when they are spoken in a huge crowd, such as during a party. This is a type of selective attention, similar to the cocktail party effect. While in a noisy or busy environment, you can focus on certain discussions of your choosing. More significantly, if you hear your name mentioned nearby, you quickly perk up and realize that someone is referring to you. This allows you to pay more attention and intention to whoever is speaking to you, and it may make you feel good that they remembered your name in the first place. It's a wonderful idea for establishing a strong first impression when you utilize and remember someone's name in conversation.

3) Make some time to spend with them

One of the more apparent, but no less essential, methods to gain someone's approval is to spend some time with them and get to know them. Sit with your new classmate, coworker for lunch, or treat one of your employees to some nice coffee. This is an example of the greater exposure effect, which states that simply being around someone makes you more likable. According to R.B. Zajonc's psychological study, the greater exposure effect is a psychological phenomenon in which individuals favor someone or something merely because they have grown familiar with them. When you are frequently exposed to a specific sensation, you become comfortable with it and, as a result, you like its presence. This is why certain products and ads are constantly being repeated during your favorite programs' commercial breaks. The more familiar you are with something, the more you'll start to notice it. Therefore, the more they'll take notice of you.

4) Talk about your blunders 

You may believe that you must appear and act in a specific way in order to attract people's attention and that you must strive for and express a sense of perfectionism. How can you expect your friend to like you if you don't top every single test? Others cannot truly admire you if you are not up to date on the newest fashion trends. Contrary to popular belief, most individuals don't care all that much. Perfectionism is typically viewed as frightening and unreachable by most people. It's possible that exposing your faults will make you more appealing to them. In one study, Elliot Aronson had individuals evaluate the attractiveness of phony test takers. The exam takers might be graded as excellent, medium, or bad. But there was a catch. After their exam results were announced, some test takers were instructed to appear clumsy and spill coffee at the end of their interview. People who took part in the research thought the more awkward test-takers were the most attractive. A predominant person may be seen as superhuman and consequently far off. A mistake tends to humanize him and, as a result, improves his appeal. Bad, medium and even excellent test-takers were all ranked worse than superior test-takers who scored high but also spilled their coffee. People want to see your humanity. When you demonstrate your capability while remaining accessible as a human being who makes errors, you are perceived as more pleasant.

6) Let others fully express themselves.

As much as we enjoy talking about ourselves, it is vital to remember that others enjoy talking about themselves as well. In one of five experiments, Havard researchers revealed that people naturally want to talk about themselves more. Subjects were placed in an fMRI scanner and asked questions about their personal opinions on a subject as well as questions regarding the ideas of others. When participants discussed their own ideas, areas of the brain related to reward and motivation were more responsive than when they discussed others. In reality, the need to talk about yourself is so powerful that in another study, some participants refused money in order to talk about themselves more. Therefore, go ahead and let your new buddy tell you about themselves. Because of the rise in dopamine, they will enjoy their time with you more. When you realize you've been talking too much, remind yourself that the other person is just as eager to share their perspective as you are.